Life takes care of itself. Somehow, against all odds, it works itself out. It's us humans who tend to try so hard all the time. We put in tons of effort imagining that if we don’t
its all going to fall apart. Regardless of our efforts, the moon and
the tides ebb and flow, the seasons cycle, and we fall asleep and wake each
night with hearts that are still beating inside our chests.
itself is effortless. It happens in spite of itself and with no forcing and yet
we think that without the push that we won't arrive at this
elusive destination we’re all striving for. Seeds crack open when its time and
fruit falls from the tree when it’s ripe. It just does.
soften into the flow of life, even a little, we can feel a stream carrying us
along. We can allow it to do itself. We can get out of its way. When we soften
with a deeper breath and relax our shoulders and belly, we can experience how
okay we are—how okay life is—as it is. It doesn’t need our fixing. In our softening, no
matter how imperfect it is at first, we open ourselves to feel how taken care of we actually are.
We realize we don’t have to do it all. It’s being done.
Life takes care of its own and that
includes you and me. Sometimes it doesn’t look the way we imagine it should.
You may be reading and thinking, “how does this take care of me?” I feel you.
But, somehow, in a greater perspective you and I may not be able to see, there
is order and intelligence to the unfolding events in our lives.
|Artwork: Deep Breath by Melanie Weidner|
believe that we live into our wholeness, and that, this impulse to be integral
is so strong that it stops at nothing to realize itself. It is willing to risk
everything to be whole. We are nudged, cajoled, and sometimes flung headfirst
towards realizing the wholeness that we in fact already are. Some would even
say that’s why we’re here.
early 20s I read a lot of the philosopher Alan Watts’ work. He describes
this rediscovery of what’s already here as the divine playing hide and seek
with itself. He believed, as I do, that this is the game that we are here to
play. We’re already whole. We already are healed and holy.
we insist on resisting life? A dear friend told me recently, “You say you want grace to drive but you’re not letting go of the steering
wheel.” Her comment really stayed with me. Our
lives are made possible through a greater force—a life force that digests our
food, grows our hair and finger nails, and governs the great cycles of life—and
yet we struggle and swim upstream much of the time instead of letting the life
flow carry us.
we learn to start trying so hard?
How does efforting become our default
One of the greatest 'unlearnings' that we can welcome into our days is a
return to letting life take care of us one small moment of allowing at a time. We can remember to lean into the current of life again--the current that's always there for us whether we're choosing to lean in or not.
2014 Marie-Ève Bonneau